Alright, let's assume you're a bright fellow (after all, you're reading this), hoping to meet someone who has a thing for hairy guys. I'm making this up as I go along, alright? Anyway, hairy guys are generally referred to as bears so 'Teddy Bear', 'Bear Naked' (a play on the phrase bare naked, oh or how about 'Bear Naked, Ladies', the comma indicating you're addressing women as your target audience), and Beary Hairy are all things that would probably attract someone who likes furry dudes. Try one out see if you're meeting the people who interest you. Is the name too obvious? Are the people who respond not quite up to the standard you were hoping for? Lets step it up a bit. Ursa Major is a constellation (Latin translation, big bear). You could use that as your name (or part of it -- 'Ursa Majorly Intelligent') and make witty puns about your heavenly body. Someone who asks about your name is starting a conversation, giving you a chance to make an impression. Create a name people can ask about, especially if you can work your interests into the explanation, and you're on your way to virtual bliss.
Lets try another. You want to get down and dirty, have hot and nasty animal sex with the first person who'll feed your fantasy. What fantasy? I already said animal sex, weren't you paying attention? Brainstorm some animal words and phrases, they don't have to be all about sex: doggy style, dog and pony show, fuck like bunnies, one trick pony, dog days, donkey show. Any of these strike your fancy or convey your desires? You don't really want to be obtuse, you want to make your desires obvious so how about 'Donkey Show Whore?' 'K9 Kisser?' 'Puppy Play' -- well this one is likely to attract people whose fetish is playing at being a puppy rather than bestiality, but you get the idea. And speaking of BDSM (the puppy thing is sort of an offshoot) choosing not to capitalize your name is usually indicative of a submissive attitude in chat. So unless that's your kink, you're better off using upper case letters.
You'll also see people indicate their sex in their names with apostrophes around an M or F. This is a reasonable thing to do if you you're calling yourself 'Hot for Teacher' or some other non-sex specific name. But it's just redundant if your name is 'Marlborough Man' or 'Witchy Woman.' If you're using a non-specific name, I say add the gender discriminator. Proudly declare you are a 'Poetic Lover (m)' or a 'Masochistic Masturbator (f).' I like the way this looks particularly if you have an M or F in your name: 'Hot (f)or Teacher' for example. And yes, even with your sex indicated in brackets or in your name itself, there will still be people who will ask. Some people use the personals abbreviations like mwm (married white man) dbf (divorced black female). This is only my personal opinion, but I think that unless the fact that you're married or divorced or only looking for a particular racial pairing is important to your fantasy, you should leave that info out of your name. Case in point, I had a friend who got off on the idea that his wife would find out about his "affairs" so for him, the fact he was married was worth saying in his name. It was actually crucial to the realization of his fantasy.
Having said all this, there is no rule that you have to use the same name all the time. Goodness knows I have a few. If my admirers become too demanding or my mood doesn't fit my name I just use a different one. The drawback of multiple names is that, if you're using them to have a little anonymity, you'll have it. In other words, the people you have connections with already won't recognize you. You'll either have to out yourself to them or start your seduction from scratch. Speaking from experience, if you use multiple names it becomes extremely difficult to remember who you spoke to under what name. If you're going to be crushed that you shared hours of intimate posts with someone who then doesn't seem to remember you, I suggest you keep notes. I'm just sayin'. It's more likely that you were talking to someone under a different name than that you've been forgotten.
Your name is the key to getting exactly the kind of attention you want. If you're hot for a celebrity, calling yourself 'Crazy for Megan Fox(m)' is going get you hooked up with a like-minded lover a lot faster than calling yourself 'Joe S.' Indicating your sex may save you a few questions and possibly some unwanted advances. Regardless of your decision, your name will be the first impression you make. You didn't get to choose the name you were born with but in chat you are literally able to make a name for yourself, so do it!
I knew a woman who prided herself on being called a slut. She was very quick to point out it was WHAT she was, not WHO she was. A distinction that she felt was lost on most people. In any event, it was her considered opinion that EVERY woman is a slut, but it's the ones who own their sexuality and the power and pleasures it can provide that truly are. These women stand next to their sexuality, not hiding behind it.
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